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Jennifer Lopez once said that Ben Affleck wore the pants in their relationship. She explained why that’s exactly what she looks for in a partner.
When Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck first started dating, she said he wore the pants in their relationship. This statement garnered some eye-rolling, as it is clear to most that Lopez is extremely career-oriented. She admitted this, saying her professional life is the reason she likes to “submit” in her romantic relationships.
Jennifer Lopez said she likes to slip into traditional roles in her relationship
In 2003, Lopez and Affleck gave a joint interview as an engaged couple. When asked about their dynamic, Lopez said that Affleck “wears the pants” in their relationship.
“Ben wears the pants,” Lopez told Access Hollywood. “He definitely wears the pants. We respect each other and that’s the most important thing.”
In an interview later that year, Lopez explained what she meant in more detail, saying that she was so dominant and ambitious in her career that she wished someone would take care of her in her personal life.
“It’s about being able to feel safe somewhere,” she told W Magazine. “That’s not to say I’m not a strong, independent woman. But I think when you’re in a relationship, you have to submit to a certain extent.”
Everyone who knows her says she is tirelessly hardworking
Considering what those who know Lopez have said about her drive, it’s hardly surprising that she wanted some sort of respite at home.
“I’ve never seen anyone work as hard as she does,” said her long-time work partner Elaine Goldsmith-Thomas. “She worked for every opportunity she ever had. Nothing was given to her.”
Lopez has often described herself as a workaholic. She feels like she has something to prove.
“I’m not a media darling,” she told Harper’s Bazaar. “I wasn’t kissed into this business. I’m from the Bronx. I had to find my way, so I always felt like I had to prove myself. Maybe that’s a good motivation. I never settle for mediocrity.”
Jennifer Lopez: Men and women approach relationships differently
Lopez said she has a traditional view of relationships. She has a fondness for that dynamic, but she also feels it is inherent in the nature of men and women. She believes women are more focused on building a family life than men.
“It’s the difference between ‘I’ and ‘we,'” she said. “Men operate from their own universe, and women focus on the family and keeping it together. Because we are naturally caring people – we give birth, we have to take care of the baby – and men don’t have that experience.”
In contrast, she believed that men were more interested in working and earning money.
“They have to earn a living and things like that,” she said. “They have different sensibilities.”
Nevertheless, Lopez has always been one of the main earners in all her romantic relationships.
